When she was a year old, I held my daughter Georgia at the closed window of our 30th floor New York City apartment so we could look out over Times Square.
Across the street, stretching the full length of a 40-floor building, was a painting of Dwight Gooden, the ace Met’s pitcher, coiled in his wind-up with his eyes staring straight at us from under his cap.
I had the habit of asking Georgia, “Is it a cloudy day or a sunny day?” Soon enough, however, it got more complicated, and our conversation evolved. In other words, sometimes it was not all cloudy or all sunny. Sometimes, it was both.
So it is with effective communication. Not in terms of sun and clouds, but in terms of assertiveness and empathy. We need both—the will to assert and the sensibility to speak into the listeners’ capacity to hear.
We do the audience a service to be assertive because we give them something to push against, to poke holes in, and thus create a dialogue between our experience and theirs.
And we do ourselves a service to understand their capacity to listen—to see the world as they see it—so that we can clothe our assertions in terms that will help them see more clearly the validity of our view.
Some of us lack empathy and find it hard to comprehend what the audience is able to hear.
And some of us lack assertiveness and find it hard to engage constructively in intellectual combat.
But those who can do both earn the respect and trust of followers and opponents alike. We call these people leaders, movers and shakers, high potentials, charismatics, persuaders, influencers, top guns, visionaries, sales stars.
My daughter and I thought Dwight Gooden was staring at us, but in reality he was staring at the catcher’s mitt, trying to hurl his pitch where the catcher could catch it.
Pingback: Denise Sikes
Pingback: Anonymous
Pingback: guest beds
Pingback: buy black wedges
Pingback: sell cell phones for cash
Pingback: carrera
Pingback: ray ban
Pingback: tag heuer sonnenbrille
Pingback: Kampina mpanieras
Pingback: project imagination
Pingback: romantic valentines day ideas
Pingback: buy white boots
Pingback: ruby tuesday
Pingback: Polaris snowmobile
Pingback: boys hairstyles
Pingback: Bedroom Furniture Sets Review
Pingback: Social Media Marketing
Pingback: 2011 monthly calendar template
Pingback: scheduling software online
Pingback: check grammar
Pingback: free aristocrat pokies online
Pingback: control de flotas
Pingback: http://septicserviceportland.com/
Pingback: facebook brasil
Pingback: Resistor color coding
Pingback: vegastowers cheats ipad
Pingback: pokies
Pingback: septic service
Pingback: promotional products
Pingback: african mango superfood
Pingback: buy guest beds
Pingback: african mango pure
Pingback: dr oz african mango plus
Pingback: african mango oprah
Pingback: help tinnitus
Pingback: aussie pokies game
Pingback: Swiss T Gallery
Pingback: register domain name
Pingback: grow taller 4 idiots
Pingback: limousine
Pingback: african mango weight loss dr oz
Pingback: seguros de auto
Pingback: TOLCO
Pingback: Fort Myers lawyers criminal
Pingback: West Palm Beach lawyers criminal
Pingback: DUI attorney orange county
Pingback: Auto Movers
Pingback: Burlington coat factory coupons
Pingback: costa rica surf camp
Pingback: Personalization Mall
Pingback: credit repair mortgage
Pingback: Adira Asuransi Terbaik di Indonesia
Pingback: cool caravans
Pingback: Take Away Containers
Pingback: sbobet
Pingback: gucci solbriller
Pingback: gain muscle
Pingback: kindle 3g review
Pingback: un55d8000
Pingback: plumber raleigh nc
Pingback: improving eyesight naturally
Pingback: Mongoose spin BMX freestyle bike
Pingback: Logitech G700
Pingback: Victorias secret coupon
Pingback: Baby Bedding
Pingback: Schwinn 420
Pingback: Panasonic Bread Machine
Pingback: mnchen konzerte 2012
Pingback: Motorola Droid Bionic
Pingback: HTC Droid
Pingback: Blinds
Pingback: brain wave generator
Pingback: brainwave meditation
Pingback: garmin watches for runners
Pingback: buy video games
Pingback: Reputation Defender Experts
Pingback: canister vacuum cleaners
Pingback: dyson animal ball vacuum
Pingback: MyName
Pingback: pc-tricks
Pingback: weight gain supplements
Pingback: manual treadmills
Pingback: corporate photographer
Pingback: polished Gem Hematite
Pingback: toaster oven comparison
Pingback: christmas in
Pingback: top 10 pre workout supplements
Pingback: back inversion table reviews
Pingback: Resistance Training
Pingback: tricep exercises
Pingback: Baby Flip Flops
Pingback: free housing grant money
Pingback: best elliptical machine
Pingback: kids climbers
Pingback: cortes de cabelo 2012 compridos
Pingback: call of duty marketing
Pingback: zojirushi bb-cec20
Pingback: opthamologist
Pingback: http://mbaonline.thunderbird.edu/
Pingback: amor en linea
Pingback: burlington coat factory coupons
Pingback: adjustable dumbbells reviews
Pingback: Free Porno Download
Pingback: coiffures 2012 cheveux longs
Pingback: medals
Pingback: Trophies
Pingback: buy gold bullion
Pingback: buy gold online
Pingback: cinnamon supplements
Pingback: fast weight loss
Pingback: san francisco raves
Pingback: Gift wrapping ideas
Pingback: olive garden coupon
Pingback: Medicare Quote
Pingback: round asses
Pingback: Tummy Tuck
Pingback: Sarasota Gary Moore
Pingback: 866-826-4101
Pingback: acupuncture and weight loss
Pingback: Good Companies to Invest In
Pingback: nioxin vitamins
Pingback: Best Dental Insurance
Pingback: How to Fix a Relationship
Pingback: Edmonton MLS
Pingback: Herbal Remedies
Pingback: acnezine cystic acne
Pingback: TugJobs 11 11 21 Poolside Pulling XXX 720p MP4 CuMBuCKeTS
Pingback: Pilates for weight loss
Pingback: No white food diet
Pingback: Low residue diet food list
Pingback: Valvoline Oil Change Coupon
Pingback: Digestive enzymes and weight loss
Pingback: herbal remedies
Pingback: super effective SEO for webmasters
Pingback: liberty reserve
Pingback: Online marriage counseling
Pingback: control de vehiculos
Pingback: sistemas de control de flotas
Pingback: finance
Pingback: Health care
Pingback: In Full Dresses
Pingback: Dinner At Romeo
Pingback: Car Stereo San Diego
Pingback: ingersoll rand 2115timax
Pingback: where to go on vacation
Pingback: Toenail Removal
Pingback: Taylor T5
Pingback: Brother DCP-7040
Pingback: Brother DCP-7040
Pingback: Larissa Deschambeault
Pingback: sistemas de control de flota
Pingback: Jermaine Deshaies
Pingback: gestion de vehiculos
Pingback: stock promotion
Pingback: sistemas de control de flotas
Pingback: gestion de flotas
Pingback: Marriage Advice
Pingback: tablesawdeals.com
Pingback: sistemas de gestion de flota
Pingback: full bed size
Pingback: eljer toilet tank lid
Pingback: hanging pi
Pingback: reebok zig zag
Pingback: credit card
Pingback: study carrol
Pingback: kid bathroom ideas
Pingback: small leather sectional
Pingback: gestion de flotas
Pingback: sectional couch
Pingback: small sec
Pingback: small sectionals for apartments
Pingback: subprime car finance
Pingback: paperwhite narcissus
Pingback: personal debt loans
Pingback: acnezine cream
Pingback: betainvites.com
Pingback: acnezine side effects
Pingback: dewalt cordless drill
Pingback: home loan calculator
Pingback: Acnezine
Pingback: Save My Marriage Today ebook
Pingback: forex trading system
Pingback: credit mortgage repair
Pingback: Free money From the Government
Pingback: brooksglycerin8
Pingback: save my marriage
Pingback: Sexless Marriage
Pingback: car stereo san diego
Pingback: mlm review
Pingback: Article Marketing Robot Discount
Pingback: business card maker
Pingback: Pee Movies
Pingback: Homedics
Pingback: Real Estate Software
Pingback: Buy pool table light
Pingback: ipad 2
Pingback: Schwinn 240 Recumbent Bike
Pingback: webcam sex
Pingback: free download games
Pingback: control de vehiculos software
Pingback: How to Save a Marriage
Pingback: download ebooks
Pingback: best way to get rid of acne
Pingback: bluepoppyherbs
Pingback: theherbsforanxiety
Pingback: facebookofsex
Pingback: reverse phone call lookup
Pingback: White Fire Doors
Pingback: Criminal Law Santa Maria
Pingback: thethaiherbs
Pingback: Acne No More
Pingback: Webcam Sex
Pingback: jailbreak
Pingback: My Blog Title
Pingback: Air Compressor
Pingback: Bird Feeder Poles
Pingback: Mediafire Movies
Pingback: My Blog Title
Pingback: Schwinn 240 Recumbent Exercise Bike
Pingback: French XXX Movies
Pingback: Free Amateur Porn
Pingback: website
Pingback: el nido resorts lagen island
Pingback: Devisenhandel
Pingback: relationshipproblemshelp.org
Pingback: Keurig b60
Pingback: Sexless Marriage
Pingback: Free MP3 Downloads
Pingback: hindi telugu movies
Pingback: craftsman air compressor
Pingback: Warez Downloads
Pingback: Degenerative Joint Disease
Pingback: Transhumanism
Pingback: Nanotechnology Software
Pingback: best pre workout supplements
Pingback: almenia maria
Comments are closed.